There are undoubtedly thousands of reasons we become stuck and unable to end the conflict situation we find ourselves in. It can get a grip on us and before we know it, we’re stuck defending our point of view.
The principal difficulty with conflict is that it defines us, usually in the wrong ways; that is, for ourselves and against others, rather than for ourselves and with others, against our common problems.
Relationships don’t have to break. They only break when we avoid having the crucial conversation that we know we need to have.
Joseph Grenny talks about crucial conversations which is what’s needed if we’re to release ourselves from the emotional conflict that we fear or possibly relish (depending on our upbringing)
A second video of Joseph Grenny explaining the important of having that crucial conversation