The Thomas Kilmann Conflict model

The Thomas Kilmann Conflict model

Conflict basically means any situation in which your concerns or desires differ from those of another person

The Thomas Kilmann Conflict Mode Instrument (TKI) assesses an individual’s behaviour in conflict situations. That is, situations in which the concerns of two people appear to be incompatible.

In conflict situations, we can describe a person’s behaviour along two basic dimensions. Assertiveness, the extent to which the individual attempts to satisfy his or her own concerns, and Cooperativeness, the extent to which the individual attempts to satisfy the other person’s concerns.

These two dimensions of behaviour can be used to define five methods of dealing with conflict. These five conflict-handling modes are shown below:

 

Conflict is one of the largest reducible costs in organisations.

  • OPP and CIPD study (UK 2010) shows that UK businesses estimate the cost of conflict in the workforce to be £24 billion every year
  • 64% consider that conflict negatively impacted upon workforce performance
  • 40% of all grievances are said to be relationship related
  • About 23 days per year is spent per HR employee dealing with conflict

COMPETING

Competing is assertive and uncooperative, a power-oriented mode. When competing, an individual pursues his or her own concerns at the other person’s expense, using whatever power seems appropriate to win his or her position. Competing might mean standing up for your rights, defending a position you believe is correct, or simply trying to win.

COLLABORATING

Collaborating is both assertive and cooperative. When collaborating, an individual attempts to work with the other person to find a solution that fully satisfies the concerns of both. It involves digging into an issue to identify the underlying concerns of the two individuals and to find an alternative that meets both sets of concerns. Collaborating between two persons might take the form of exploring a disagreement to learn from each others insights, resolving some condition that would otherwise have them competing for resources, or confronting and trying to find a creative solution to an interpersonal problem.
COMPROMISING

Compromising is intermediate in both assertiveness and cooperativeness. When compromising, the objective is to find an expedient, mutually acceptable solution that partially satisfies both parties. Compromising falls on a middle ground between competing and accommodating, giving up more than competing but less than accommodating. Likewise, it addresses an issue more directly than avoiding but doesn’t explore it in as much depth as collaborating. Compromising
might mean splitting the difference, exchanging concessions, or seeking a quick middle-ground position.

AVOIDING

Avoiding is unassertive and uncooperative. When avoiding, an individual does not immediately pursue his or her own concerns or those of the other person. He or she does not address the conflict. Avoiding might take the form of diplomatically sidestepping an issue, postponing an issue until a better time, or simply withdrawing from a threatening situation.

ACCOMMODATING

Accommodating is unassertive and cooperative, the opposite of competing. When accommodating, an individual neglects his or her own concerns to satisfy the concerns of the other person; there is an element of self-sacrifice in this mode. Accommodating might take the form of selfless generosity or charity, obeying another person’s order when you would prefer not to, or yielding to another persons point of view

We are all capable of using all five conflict-handling modes; you cannot be characterized as having a single, rigid style of dealing with conflict. However, most people use some modes more readily than others, develop more skills in those modes, and therefore tend to rely on them more heavily. Many have a clear favourite. The conflict behaviours you use are the result of both your personal predispositions and the requirements of the situations in which you find yourself.

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